Asaman meets with Chris Zola Dube. 27 year old IT Network Engineer and businessman. He shares his story
Tell us a little bit about your childhood
I grew up in Joburg, having lost both my parents at a very young age, I was thrown in this Independence thing at a very early stage of my life. My father passed away in a car accident when I was doing 5th grade, at that stage I had no male role model to look up to in my life. We were not really close, so it was easy for me to get over it. My mother had to play both roles and in 2003 she passed on from pneumonia and at that moment I never thought I will be where I am now. Because of the friends and family that God blessed me with, I am where I am because of their support.
Which men influenced you the most growing up and how so?
As I mentioned earlier, I never really had a male role model in my teen years up until I met a family friend uncle who acquired his millions in his early 20’s. I aspired to be like him in every way, the only problem was that his ways around women were not something to look up to and his spiritual life was also not uplifting to anyone, but at that young stage of my life that didn’t matter, all I wanted was to be a successful young man at whatever cost. I started attending church at TESDA (Tshwane East SDA), there I met a lot of successful family men, the likes of Adv Mkhize, Mr Digkole etc, they showed me that you can be successful in your career and still hold the spiritual values and family values without compromising the image of a real man.
Do you think that in society today we have men who stand as good examples?
Definitely, the only problem is that this world is full of so much evil, all we hear about is rape, women abuse, child abuse, murder, corruption, Nkandla…we wake up to this kind of news on a daily basis and the goodness of men is over shadowed by the ones who are just males rather than men.
What do you do professionally and was it your ideal?
LOL… I ask myself that question every morning when I step inside the office. I have a lot of job titles in my organisation, I am a Project Manager, Technical Manager and a Senior Network Engineer (IT). I have also started a little business on the side, after realizing that you wake up every morning to make someone millions and millions of Rands while he is in bed, you come to appreciate the art of hard working and starting your own thing, not to be limited by a monthly pay check. So you can say I am the above mentioned and a business man.
Do you believe ones contentment in the workplace translates to the rest of their lives? And how so?
I believe one should never be never content in their work space, that limits the ability for growth, you can be content as a CEO or COO of a organisation, but not anything lower, after a while you tend to start complaining about things you cant change in a work place and then you start being content about those thing and end up being miserable and the you translate all of that to your household which will have significant implications in your home.
Do you wish to be a father some day and what would you ideally teach your children to better them as the next generation?
I do wish to start a family one day and be a parent. One thing I would teach my children is that they should never be victims of their circumstances, every circumstance should build them to be better people. One of the biggest problems about black people is South Africa is that 20 years after democracy, they are still playing victim of apartheid, once you get a mindset of entitlement YOU WILL NEVER get up and find something that will work for you
What is the one thing you wished someone had taught you that you had to learn through making a mistake?
That love isnt what it seems in the movies..LOL
Do you believe the younger generation of men as is, is equip with enough to create a healthy community of men?
Yes, not all hope is lost. Once a young man grows up knowing the Lord, all principles and values of creating a healthy community will fall into place without him being taught by any other man, God reveals more that you can imagine.
As a modern man,what are your thoughts on appearance and how does your personal style influence your confidence ?
The idea of appearance versus reality is seen in everyday life; including relationships, religion, and school studies. The concept makes me feel oblivious to the world and all the knowledge it contains. I don’t completely agree with knowledge coming from experience, for I believe that the possibility of innate knowledge exists. Appearance versus reality opens the mind to considering how things we see is not really as they seem. For example, the term “love blind” used in everyday life can be incorporated in this situation. The person one is in love with seems flawless because he/she is everything one thinks they want, but in reality, that might not be the case. We see the tip of the iceberg, but not everything about it. The first thing that you must do to improve confidence in your appearance is let go of self-doubt. Stop your negative thoughts about being too fat or not handsome enough. Then, if you’re receiving negative feedback from others, make sure you stop listening to it. The only way to gain self-confidence is to feel confident about yourself as you are.
I am thankful that people like Chris exist, and even more grateful that he exists in my space. Self pity is such common practice and here’s a man who defied the norm, has risen above tragedy and circumstance whilst maintaining and sharing a demeanor of calm and kindness. Asaman takes great pleasure in engaging with men of chatacter.
Your destiny is to fulfill those things upon which you focus most intently. So choose to keep your focus on that which is truly magnificent, beautiful, uplifting and joyful. Your life is always moving towards something
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