The UNposted Post 

There are roughly 30 (thirty) posts uncomfortably sitting in the drafts folder of Mathunzi Macdonald’s personal blog account. Ridiculous?

There are things I have been unable to speak openly about for fear of ridicule and possible public shame. There are topics I realized I had very little interest in and would be posting, well for the sake of posting. There are things I could have shared that had the potential to label me a complete “sham” as they would simply be depicting my “social media appropriate life”.

The launch of my website http://www.mathunzi.com came with a promise of regular blog posts about everything Mathunzi. I assured friends and family that I was ready to wear my scars proudly and share in my “Johannesburg City Life” and all the various things that I do work wise and in my leisure time. What I did not anticipate was yet another dramatic twist in my lifes story that would leave me seriously wounded. That wound would be left gaping for cups of salt to be splattered inside throwing me into blissful constant agony.

The launch of my site in itself was, to put it mildly, a MIRACLE.

It would surprise even the developer himself to know that the means to compile content and afford his services, literally streamed from heavens windows. Poor health sent my photoshoots soaring into black holes leaving me indebted and without a single pretty picture to continue the public display of “I am fine, but not if you look close enough”. Dazed by my circumstance, I fell into habits of mismanagement of funds, neglect of studies and business development (let us not speak of the neglegence of self, we will need a bit more time on that), disregard of good health, grooming or/and an ordered environment (OCD took leave on most days). The short of it; Things were a mess, I was a mess.

Two therapists have shared common opinion regarding my failure to grieve and process traumatic events, having suffered quite a few in a short space of time. Knowing that this process is necessary, I still have barely begun. So how could I possibly write about something I have not yet experienced? Instead I would continue recycling pep talks which are constructed around what I assume my readers may want to hear, may sympathise with or what may blind them to how devastating certain realities really are. What is the point then? Why am I the “conversationalist” having this conversation if I am not willing to HAVE the conversation?

For instance, the cutting of my hair and re-design of my first tattoo (yes brethren, I am inked).               These were not fashion statements, neither was it testiment to my Malawian genealogy which allows for rapid hair growth in a preferred texture or the seemingly new found “liberal rebellion” exercised within the church by openly flaunting ink and piercings. I simply wasn’t and probably still am not ready, to discuss in a meaningful and purposeful manner, what carrying the lifeless body of your baby until it is surgically removed really feels like and spells out for the rest of your life. Or the symbolic meaning behind the removal of the product of the hair journey you started only because he said he preffered it on you. How you trusted it would be part of a new beginning that never came and how life not so politely shoved your nose in the dust and said “Start again, and please leave that mess on your head behind. I doubt you can afford to maintain it anyway with that odd textured curly hair without the support of a suitor”.

Call me a liar however if I deny that I remain blessed and well set up, and that I should have less excuses around the commitment to these conversations.

I have lived a relatively charmed life in the greater scheme of things. I am surrounded by beautiful beings who indulge me in genuine support, love and memorable shared experiences. I am blessed with talents, intent and a know how in multiple fields. “Broke” remains relative as I still enjoy certain luxuries and perks. (Necessary)Opportunities have been made available to me by both man and the universe. I am able to better discern as far as who is FOR me and who is simply there to add colour to my already colourful life. And I have learnt to have a very different kind of conversation with God.

I have spent a lot of time asking God to fix IT and not to fix ME. I have asked Him to help me forgive him or her and forgot to mention how I need to forgive myself. I prayed (or rather recited the popular petition text) for my daily bread and failed to simply ask for assistance in meeting my blog deadlines.(We only talk to God about serious business huh? In our best English?)                                      God had become some mystical figure and not my father and friend. I had to reintroduce my self and allow Him to do the same. My conversations with Him now make for better conversations with YOU.

May I kindly not make any promises at this point but assure you that I want to be in constant, honest, purposeful conversation with you.

My site http://www.mathunzi.com, developed by Sibisi Media Group, will be updated as regularly as possible to keep you up to date with what is happening in my life and the work that I will be doing and progress I hope to make. It will open a window of communication to explore what can be achieved in collaboration in the various fields of work and play.

Thembekile Tsoari, with the assistance of other artists, will help document the interesting and exciting moments in my life through photography and videography. Most of these engagements may be found on my Instagram accounts, my personal account being @thunzy_

I will be healing, learning, living, laughing and loving. I will be going through this life thing understanding that I only get to do it ONCE. I will be having conversations with YOU.

Here, 29 August 2017 at 03:30 – POSTED.

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Sabelo ‘DJ Sabby’ Mtshali – Asaman 

Sabelo ‘DJ Sabby’ Mtshali recently turned 25 and is making waves in the entertainment industry. He shares his journey with Asaman 

  

What is the one stereotype you absolutely hate that has been placed on men of zulu decent? 

That we are all always angry, short temper, cheaters and are about the polygamy life. It is also sad that most people have made it seem that the taxi business is for Zulu men. Those are just some of the things I can think of right now.

Do you feel your upbringing was based more on a traditional or religious outlook or were the two merged?

 I will have to say that I come from a family that has always allowed me to find answers to all my oddity. My family has always ensured that I am aware of all my customs when it comes to family tradition and with religion, we are Christian and that is what I have believed in ever since I was a kid. I do have questions on some aspects to it but I do believe in my traditional values and religion.

But to answer your questions, the two have always been in sync from day 1.

Define your understanding of manhood

Being there for your family, ensuring that they never have to suffer when you are around.

Offering direction to people you consider close to you and steering the ship on a path that is for the benefit of everyone. Be a leader and not a dictator.

Have a relationship with your kid that is beyond monetary value.

Offer support in your community and assist people with skills that will empower them in the long run.

Be a pillar of strength when the world seems to be falling apart.

Respect women, they are our ribs and ribs give structure to the chest you push out with pride.

Pride doesn’t make you a man but respect for others does.

Why the entertainment industry?

You might consider this cliché, but in all honesty entertainment chose me.

Do you feel men in the industry can be considered good examples for the coming generation (please give at least one example)
 Yes. There are several men in showbiz that have shown young people that you can make a career of entertainment and still be able to hold the forth at home.

Men like Proverb & DJ Fresh, have been able to show that through hard work and consistency you can succeed without losing touch with home. I am not saying it is easy, but from what they post up on their social media platforms, it gives me hope that when I become a family man, my career and family can be balanced.

The age old debate regarding the lyrics in most popular music being demeaning to women? What are your feelings towards this?

This is topic that is so deep and any words I choose to define this might not be enough. Unfortunately money and women have always been lined up in the same line in show business as means of generating revenue. Most men feel like having both, money and women is their idea of reaching your pinnacle of success and that is not true.

 Then you have men who are totally against that. Women deserve to be respected and also women must stop labelling all men as dogs because there are men out there that are good to their women and it is not fair to label them dogs when it is not true.  

What do you as Sabelo want to be remembered for? Describe your ideal legacy

I would like to be remembered as the best to ever do it! He was never about competition with anyone but he was always challenging himself because he knew what he was capable of achieving.


I was performing on a live music radio platform when I met DJ Sabby, as he was the host of this particular show. We linked up on social media and this is where I began to see just how hard this young man works. Many have relocated to ‘the big city’ with the hope of achieving ‘big things’, but very few put in the work required. What I have seen in DJ Sabby is a manifestation of the popular saying “What you put in is what you get out” 

  

You can put in a lot of work and hours into any project. This does not mean results will be immediate. Learn to be patient. I believe God’s time is the best time. 

Photography by Aaron & Hur