Asaman meets with 28 year old Dumisani. Husband, father and civil engineer by profession. A dear friend who I enjoyed engaging with on this platform.
Has engineering always been your field of interest or have you had other interests?
Engineering has always been my field of interest but it was always between engineering and psychology and I suppose as the time got closer to making the decision in my matric year I decided to go with Engineering and I have never turned back. I do plan to find my way back to psychology because I have an underlying interest in how the human mind functions.
What values do you carry with you in the workplace that you feel create a more positive working environment and experience?
I am a perfectionist and carry this everywhere I go even to the workplace. This tends to filter to my colleagues because my work environment is an environment that can be multidisciplinary at times with the different specialities in the engineering field working together. I always say it must be done right, and I don’t compromise, 2nd best is not enough. This attitude helps me to excel at what I do and has created a good reputation among my peers at work professionally.
You made the decision to get married at what people may consider a relatively young age. What compelled this decision?
As I’ve said earlier I have an underlying interest in how the human mind functions and that has made me to be very analytical of different personalities and how life happens in general. This also helped me to quickly define the kind of wife I wanted to have in my life. Having been able to mentally build and define the kind of wife who would compliment my personality it became very easy to identify my wife as the one. What helped also was the fact that I knew her as a friend for a very long time (close to 7years), and she also played a major part in defining the kind of wife I wanted to have. My career started relatively early and having found the perfect partner getting married was an easy decision. Age was never a concern, I believed in my capabilities #Asaman to look after her and be the husband she needed, even in that early age.
Is the experience of marriage one that helps mould what you found were your ideals in terms of becoming a man?
My wife is a very strong woman and has played a big part in building me to be the the man and husband I am today. Marriage comes with its challenges and those challenges have definitely moulded me, and in a way changed some views and opinions I had about being a husband and a man in the marriage environment positively.
You now have a son. Are there similarities in how your father related to you with how you relate to your son? What are some of those things?
My father and I have an almost friendship relationship (obviously with its boundries) and that has worked well for us. I’m still kind of overwhelmed about being a father (two years later) and I’m working on building the kind of relationship with him like one I share with my father, where he will see me as a friend, as a leader, and as a role model.
Moral fibre wears thin in this day and age. What principles do you absolutely live by?
The Bible is my guide in my journey through life. I am very reluctant to change with time because I serve a God “who changes not”, I have a wife who looks up to me as the leader of our family to lead the way, and a son who looks up to me and will copy everything that I do. I can not lead them astray by making irresponsible decisions. Fear of God, absolute love for my family, being a reliable rock for my wife, and being the light that leads the way through darkness to my son are what keep me grounded.
What other passions do you have that you enjoy participating in or engaging about?
I love cars so I when I do get a chance I attend track days and drag races, one day I’ll participate!
I love talking about human development, human belief systems and current affairs, I love having deep conversations about society and its stimuli. I enjoy debating about relationship topics, religious conversations and anything that will develop my mind to improve me and my thinking capacity as a person.
3 things you hope your younger brothers will learn as they transition into young men
1.Life is tough and as a man you’ve got to be tougher, take charge and take responsibility, take up your place as a man in this life
2.You only live once, do it responsibly so that you can reap from it in the future. what ever it is.
3.Nothing is impossible, you can have what ever you want if you work hard at it.
How was the experience of shooting the Asaman campaign?
Yoh! that was weird I must say. I don’t take a lot of pictures of myself, I don’t smile a lot so having multiple camera shots and posing was completely out of my comfort zone!! Having those flash lights up in my face made me realize how much I don’t want to be famous. The experience was great because it was something out of my comfort zone and completely out of my league, but yoh..it was just so awkward. Smiling when there’s no reason to smile? respect to the celebrities, this isn’t easy, I will stick to my day job!
I have been friends with Dumisani for roughly 12 years. His meticulous attention to detail has not wavered. Neither has his firm stance on issues he believes in. Being a father to one of the most gorgeous kids in the planet is a bonus, but also a challenge.
Asaman is about imparting knowledge. Here stands someone who is tasked with this, with no room for compromise.
‘ I am a firm believer in hard work. This is how I was brought up. I believe that hard work has definite results. What you put in is what you get out’
Photography by Aaron & Hur