31 year old musician and music director Chadwin Alexander sits down with the Asaman team and shares his story
Could you share your definition of what a man is in a short paragraph
A man is someone who keeps his word, at all costs…even though it hurts. Who makes it up to someone he involuntarily disappoints. Some one who takes pride in his work and always looks for solutions instead of focusing on the problems, no matter how tough they may seem. I was taught never to leave the house looking like you just woke up, so I think a man should always smell good, look good, and be courteous and polite and be gentleman like at all times. A man is someone who never gives up on a dream, despite what the world says and what society deems viable and safe, even if his family is included in that society. A man always puts the well being of someone else before himself. Contrary to popular belief, I believe a real man is one who is not ashamed or afraid to cry, not for the odd “rom com” but when its necessary to cry. A man is one who should be meek and humble enough to say “Im Sorry” when he has to, gentle enough to pay attention to the little things in life that count and strong enough to stand up for what is right in the face of adversity, and no matter what people may say or gossip about. A real man is not afraid to cry for help, on his knees in prayer.
Do you feel you were exposed to such men in your life growing up, if so kindly share who they were and their impact on your life
If there was one man that always had my attention, that man was Rocky BalBoa (Sylvester Stallone’s character in a boxing movie for those unfortunate ones who have no clue of that movie!!!?!?!?!) Jokes aside though, my grandfather was that man… IS that man!! A man who always reminds me of how important God is, and that knowledge is power. I later deduced that knowledge is only power in the hands that understand how to turn that knowledge into Wisdom Power. My grandfather was the consummate gentleman, the benchmark of style and etiquette and one of the most Godly, God fearing men I’ve ever come across. He is definitely responsible in defining and grooming me into the man you see today.
Kindly share what you do on a professional level on a day to day basis
Before, when asked this question, I used to get befuddled at how to answer this question, but as time passed, I found that the easiest answer was to say that I am a musician, in its entirety. To simplify it, I am a professional pianist, what I do the most and what I am now, amongst many other things, is a Musical Director for a few South African artists and television shows and the occasional gospel show/concert.
Does music integrate into your personal space as much as we see it impact you in professional spaces?
Most definitely!!! I am practically immobile at home if I don’t have music playing in the background. When I wash the dishes there’s music, when I shower/bath there’s music, when I do the washing there’s music, when I fall asleep there’s music, when I’m driving, there’s music. I hope that answers your question.
Do you feel a religious outlook influences morality and what are your own moral convictions?
I do believe that any religious outlook can influence ones moral compass in both good and bad ways, hence the Wisdom Power I spoke of earlier. It is my strong belief that an individual needs to make up his or her own mind on what is morally and ethically right and wrong, no matter what religious background may be brought forward. This is actually in my opinion a very serious discussion you are raising here… there are so many facets to this question, maybe that’s for another blog hehehe (⏎ am I allowed to do that??) Coming back to the final part of your question, my moral convictions might appear to be simple and archaic, but I believe that when you can truly put another before yourself and truly apply the thirteenth chapter from a book I like to read called 1Corinthians; (a chapter in the Bible which depicts Gods way to love people), to every culture, every creed, no matter your religious standing and ethnicity, so much right can be done and so much wrong can be averted.
They say ‘when you look good you feel good.’ We know you to be conscious of your appearance; does it affect how you feel about yourself?
An emphatic YES!!! I must start off by saying that I’m quite new to the fashion movement. I’ve always been known to possess my own sense of style, and thank goodness its evolved over time, cause when I look back, I just laugh at my fashion sensibility. I just wear what I’m comfortable in and what feels right for that day. I think you dress the way you feel, and vice versa. I look at it as my social right, my humanitarian responsibility to look presentable at all times, for all occasions, whether I’m playing tennis, golf, squash, or cycling or even when I’m going for a walk in a park. I was raised to always look the part, even if you’re an amateur hahahahaha (⏎oops I did it again!?!?)
Do you wish to be a father someday and what would you want to teach your children?
This is a sensitive topic for me, but to hit straight to the question I would say YES. I would like to be a father, but more importantly I would love to be a great dad someday.
I see you said “children” I think lets start with ONE first and then take it slow from there hey!!?? So, what I would teach my “child” is to dream big just like daddy, cause I think having ONE wife and ONE child IS DREAMING BIG, let alone children and a few other wives!!! I digress, my child would know and understand that God and family and friends are important. I honestly think the only way to teach my child or pass on any good values I’ve learned, and warn them about the negatives and the “not so good” tendencies I was subjected to as I grew up, would be to show him/her how to love, and for me to LEAD by example. I do not want to be the parent who says “Do As I Say, Not As I Do”…I want to instill in them to “Do As God Says, And Practice As He Has”
In terms of roles in society, where would you place women? And how do you feel women should be treated in respect to this?
I would place women right beside all men in every way and in every sphere. I have a high regard for women in society, this respect I have gained for all women, was by seeing my mother and grandmother raise their children in times of great adversity and circumstance. I come from a broken home, so I know the pain and struggles I see in so many young people I come across today. That certainly did not stop my mother and grandmother from raising their children the best way they knew how. Yes they made mistakes, who doesn’t, but such strength I have seen in them that we all see -or may not see- in all women around the world, fighting and praying for their children and clawing and struggling in the face of great adversity and insurmountable circumstances. I am proof that those seemingly insurmountable circumstances were NOT insurmountable AT ALL… and only through a mothers sheer will and faith in God, raised a man like me, and as a man, …“I will honour my mother and father so my days might be plentiful on this earth…”
Determination, coupled with a passion for what you do, seems to be essential when overcoming the negative effects of the unfortunate parts of your upbringing. Thus allowing you to fully explore your potential whilst creating a better foundation for the generation to come.
Circumstances and negativity can be a stone that breaks or builds. Iv chosen the latter.
Photography by Aaron & Hur