The UNposted Post 

There are roughly 30 (thirty) posts uncomfortably sitting in the drafts folder of Mathunzi Macdonald’s personal blog account. Ridiculous?

There are things I have been unable to speak openly about for fear of ridicule and possible public shame. There are topics I realized I had very little interest in and would be posting, well for the sake of posting. There are things I could have shared that had the potential to label me a complete “sham” as they would simply be depicting my “social media appropriate life”.

The launch of my website http://www.mathunzi.com came with a promise of regular blog posts about everything Mathunzi. I assured friends and family that I was ready to wear my scars proudly and share in my “Johannesburg City Life” and all the various things that I do work wise and in my leisure time. What I did not anticipate was yet another dramatic twist in my lifes story that would leave me seriously wounded. That wound would be left gaping for cups of salt to be splattered inside throwing me into blissful constant agony.

The launch of my site in itself was, to put it mildly, a MIRACLE.

It would surprise even the developer himself to know that the means to compile content and afford his services, literally streamed from heavens windows. Poor health sent my photoshoots soaring into black holes leaving me indebted and without a single pretty picture to continue the public display of “I am fine, but not if you look close enough”. Dazed by my circumstance, I fell into habits of mismanagement of funds, neglect of studies and business development (let us not speak of the neglegence of self, we will need a bit more time on that), disregard of good health, grooming or/and an ordered environment (OCD took leave on most days). The short of it; Things were a mess, I was a mess.

Two therapists have shared common opinion regarding my failure to grieve and process traumatic events, having suffered quite a few in a short space of time. Knowing that this process is necessary, I still have barely begun. So how could I possibly write about something I have not yet experienced? Instead I would continue recycling pep talks which are constructed around what I assume my readers may want to hear, may sympathise with or what may blind them to how devastating certain realities really are. What is the point then? Why am I the “conversationalist” having this conversation if I am not willing to HAVE the conversation?

For instance, the cutting of my hair and re-design of my first tattoo (yes brethren, I am inked).               These were not fashion statements, neither was it testiment to my Malawian genealogy which allows for rapid hair growth in a preferred texture or the seemingly new found “liberal rebellion” exercised within the church by openly flaunting ink and piercings. I simply wasn’t and probably still am not ready, to discuss in a meaningful and purposeful manner, what carrying the lifeless body of your baby until it is surgically removed really feels like and spells out for the rest of your life. Or the symbolic meaning behind the removal of the product of the hair journey you started only because he said he preffered it on you. How you trusted it would be part of a new beginning that never came and how life not so politely shoved your nose in the dust and said “Start again, and please leave that mess on your head behind. I doubt you can afford to maintain it anyway with that odd textured curly hair without the support of a suitor”.

Call me a liar however if I deny that I remain blessed and well set up, and that I should have less excuses around the commitment to these conversations.

I have lived a relatively charmed life in the greater scheme of things. I am surrounded by beautiful beings who indulge me in genuine support, love and memorable shared experiences. I am blessed with talents, intent and a know how in multiple fields. “Broke” remains relative as I still enjoy certain luxuries and perks. (Necessary)Opportunities have been made available to me by both man and the universe. I am able to better discern as far as who is FOR me and who is simply there to add colour to my already colourful life. And I have learnt to have a very different kind of conversation with God.

I have spent a lot of time asking God to fix IT and not to fix ME. I have asked Him to help me forgive him or her and forgot to mention how I need to forgive myself. I prayed (or rather recited the popular petition text) for my daily bread and failed to simply ask for assistance in meeting my blog deadlines.(We only talk to God about serious business huh? In our best English?)                                      God had become some mystical figure and not my father and friend. I had to reintroduce my self and allow Him to do the same. My conversations with Him now make for better conversations with YOU.

May I kindly not make any promises at this point but assure you that I want to be in constant, honest, purposeful conversation with you.

My site http://www.mathunzi.com, developed by Sibisi Media Group, will be updated as regularly as possible to keep you up to date with what is happening in my life and the work that I will be doing and progress I hope to make. It will open a window of communication to explore what can be achieved in collaboration in the various fields of work and play.

Thembekile Tsoari, with the assistance of other artists, will help document the interesting and exciting moments in my life through photography and videography. Most of these engagements may be found on my Instagram accounts, my personal account being @thunzy_

I will be healing, learning, living, laughing and loving. I will be going through this life thing understanding that I only get to do it ONCE. I will be having conversations with YOU.

Here, 29 August 2017 at 03:30 – POSTED.

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Tshepo ‘Crocky’ Modiri  – Asaman 

The Asaman campaign seeks to inspire, create mentorship opportunities, and create a safe and constructive space to engage, for the younger generation. Asaman sits down with 21 year old Tshepo ‘Crocky’ Modiri, a BSc student, social activist & vocalist, to gain insight on the thoughts of the younger, upcoming generation of men.  

Who is the one man, whether you have met or not, that you find inspires you most? And how?


Jesus Christ. There are many reasons why Jesus inspires me. His ideologies, how he related with other people etc. But, the one reason He really inspires me was His perseverance. We live in a world where it is extremely difficult to be who you really are and to say what you really want say. Jesus was ostracized for His views, and how He kept true to Himself amongst so many adversities is the one thing that stuck with me the most from His story, and it is the one I try apply in my life.


Authenticity. Honesty.

Do you believe guys in your age group consider good value systems as something to consider in their daily living? Why or why not? 


I think definitely yes. I think the reason it sometimes does not seem that way is due to the fact that most guys in my age group are at a stage in their life where they are still finding and creating their value systems. Early twenties are the years in which you find and settle into yourself, that includes choosing the value systems you want to live by, and applying them to your daily living
.

What are you currently studying and are you happy with your choice or do you have different prospects? 


I am currently studying a Bachelors in Science degree. I would say I am happy, but having said that I definitely do not think that this is where my passions lie. I’m yet to know for sure where my passions lie, but I am excited to find out. Right now I am going through the motions, learning and making the most of every opportunity awarded to me.

Do you ever feel pressured to behave a certain way or make certain decision in an attempt to become what someone else believes is a ‘man’ and how?


Yes, everyday. This, in my opinion speaks to a bigger societal problem and that is the problem of socially pressured gender roles/stereotypes. Too often have men been told that they should not show vulnerability, that they shouldn’t cry etc, and this type of thinking can lead to a lot
of internal distraught. This thinking is dangerous as it presents a blanket definition for manhood and any deviation towards self actualisation is stigmatised. Men need to recognise this problem, and consciously tell themselves that they are the masters of their manhood. They decide what what they manhood means to them, that way they shall lead fulfilling lives.

You are very passionate about music,why is this? 


I grew up in a very musical family. All the members in my family sing, two even play musical instruments, so music is something that’s always been in my life,and I think that’s where it comes from. Also one thing I love about music is that it brings people together, irregardless of background, culture and race.

Your social media page seems to suggest that you are very up to date in terms of modern trends. Is this something you actually pay attention to, and why or why not?  


I think yes it is something I pay attention to. I pride myself in being a global citizen. I enjoy knowing what’s happening around me as I do not think its healthy to live in an isolated bubble, as you don’t grow as much if you do. That by the way does not mean I subscribe to all the trends out there, it simply means that I am aware
of them.

What are your thoughts on girls, women and the notion of marriage?


As a Christian, I fully support the notion of marriage as this is something my religion has taught me, but even outside of Christianity I believe its a beautiful thing to have a life partner. This life is not an easy one, and having someone with you through all the difficult and pleasan
t motions is lovely, and it is the type of bond that would be difficult to find elsewhere. I really do believe that modern day marriages can last. Having said that, it isn’t easy… relationships are hard work.

The men you see around you today, do you feel they are doing enough to inspire you to be a better person? 


Yes, they do. I purposefully surround myself and stay in contact with people, in this case men, that I can learn from as I feel that this is what friendships and relationships should be about. Seeing the men in my life chase their dreams inspires me to do the same
.

Do you think the Asaman campaign will achieve the desired effect of inspiring men both old and young now that you have taken part and know what it is about?


Yes I do. Mainly because this type of discourse on masculinity and manhood is one that does not happ
en enough, and many men, young and old, rely on gender stereotypes for guidance on their manhood. Many men will read these stories, and have the courage to narrate their own.

What is the one perception people have of you that you are uncomfortable with?


One perception that I’m uncomfortable with would be some people thinking that I am quite arrogant. Think the reason for this misperception is that I generally am shy and introverted in nature, and because of this I tend to keep to myself, this behaviour then gets misinterpreted. Oh well 🙂

I had an interesting conversation with Tshepo that inspired my last question. Perceptions. A lot of ideas and behaviours are influenced by perceptions. Unfortunately, one’s perception may not always be true or even come close to the reality of what or whom they are observing. I now hope that Asaman helps break down this system of perception and allows men and woman to engage openly and honestly thus truly learning from each other. 

 It is important to remain humble and modest. Remember though, humility isn’t thinking less of yourself, it’s simply thinking of yourself less. 

Photography by Aaron & Hur  

Thando Vokwana – Asaman 

Asaman sits down with 29 year old Thando Vokwana. A Forex & Fixed Income Trader and an avid fitness enthusiast. Here is his story  

Define manhood in a short paragraph

Our lack of proper education on manhood and credible role models has led to the deterioration of manhood. Which has created a deluded image in our modern youth of what a “real man” should be; “Always be strong. Never cry.” It’s as simple as this for me.

Taking responsibility for everything in your life. That’s what it is, that’s all it is. Taking responsibility for where you are, good or bad.

Tell us a bit about your childhood

 I was born in PE, in a single parent home for the majority of my life and had the experience of an absent father – who passed away when I was 7. My mother is and was truly my everything. She fulfilled the role of mother and father quite admirably – sacrificing a lot on her part to groom me into the person I am today. Unfortunately she passed away in my teen years. I’ve always been very active and highly competitive and my mom gently nudged me into playing a lot of sport. This is where I met my best friend who has become my brother. His parents ended up adopting me when my mom past away and in some way my life has come full circle in knowing what the normality of a home where a mother and father are present and very involved feels like.

Who are the men that most influenced you and continue to do so? Please share how they have groomed you

As I mentioned earlier that I never really had a male role model till the later years of my life where my adopted father has had the biggest influence. Coming from being an extremely angry young man he has really guided me in finding peace within myself. He has really sacrificed a lot for me – taking me in as one of his own children and loving me as his own child, enhancing my spiritual journey. He has also taught me to see beyond colour and find value in people. Coming from a black home and moving into a white family was a difficult adjust but one I’m glad we got to experience as a family but that’s a story for another day.

You recently made the choice to get married,could you share what such a commitment means to you and what it would mean for your family structure if you chose to have children.

I find that commitment is something that’s lacking in modern society- we’re quick to call it quits when things get rough, look at the high divorce rates. Commitment for me is even more profound having the background that I have, growing up without a father and knowing the struggles my mother had to go through . It was an easy process for me to commit knowing that I genuinely found someone who’s happiness mattered more than mine, someone who you can see yourself growing as a person with and someone who’s not afraid to call you out even under the toughest circumstances. Being committed means being able to sacrifice – whatever my family needs – putting their needs ahead of mine. I hope one day to be able to pass this knowledge onto our kids.

How is fitness integrated in your life,and what does it mean to you?

I work under very stressful circumstances and I find it very difficult to switch off since my mind is always at work. Crossfit, the gym and instructing Movement X classes are where I find I can turn off and finally forget about. It’s a stress reliever for me. I’ve always been an active person – played tons of sport – so it’s been a seamless transition and it helps keep me young (healthy mind – healthy bond). I also embarked on competing in fitness & bodybuilding shows for the first time this year.

Professionally you are, in a more simpler term,a trader. What does your job entail?

A lot of stress, sleepless nights and more stress (just kidding). Most people think that trading is like playing roulette. You’d be very surprised. Any trade I put on my trading book involves a lot of analysis – understanding market trends, factors or news stories that could possibly sway market direction and knowing exactly where to cut your losses. I love the fact that my job gives me worldly knowledge, has taught me to be more disciplined in other areas of my life and challenges me everyday.

Is what you do professionally what you always wanted to do or are there other prospects you would have liked to explore?

I always thought I’d be a doctor growing up until I discovered how squeamish I was in my first year at university. So the plan changed and I explored the world of finance. As a black man I’ve always had a dream of opening up our community’s eyes to the world of finance – giving ugogo ePeddi access to hedge funds and educating her in the process. I plan on opening a hedge fund in the next couple of years that will focus on utilising resources in the lower to middle income classes.

Morality wears thin in today’s society, what do you feel could be done to remedy this? 

Mindset is everything. I liken it to the competitive world of sports where you can do anything if you win. The same thinking can be applied to someone who thinks they’re winning in general and tell themselves, “You know that girl? She’s my trophy. I deserve that girl. In fact, she doesn’t even want to be with me, but I don’t care. I’m going to take it.” That type of mindset should never ever be tolerated. I guess in some way it’s about being mindful of others, respecting yourself and those around you. It requires a lot of introspection and really discovering who you are – something that we’ve become unaccustomed to doing as a soceity – since a person’s worth is more closely defined by their material possesions and the amount of bravado they exhibit.

How was your experience with the Asaman campaign?

It was an unusual experience being in front of the camera but the campaign as a whole is refreshing as it gives a platform for young men to share their thoughts and ideas and inspire the next generation of young men.


Thando’s fiance is a good friend of mine, this is how we met. There is a simple lesson Iv learned in the time Iv spent with him; Never judge a book by its cover. And the application of this simple proverb would do us much good. We we learn so much more about not only others but ourselves. 

Another story that speaks to the insignificance of circumstance at the face of determination and will. 

 In today’s fast paced lifestyle where instantaneous gratification is the norm, endurance no longer exists. Endurance to stomach the rough patches we go through in our personal relationships and everyday life in general. 

Photography by Aaron & Hur  

Chad Alexander – Asaman

31 year old musician and music director Chadwin Alexander sits down with the Asaman team and shares his story 

Could you share your definition of what a man is in a short paragraph 

A man is someone who keeps his word, at all costs…even though it hurts. Who makes it up to someone he involuntarily disappoints. Some one who takes pride in his work and always looks for solutions instead of focusing on the problems, no matter how tough they may seem. I was taught never to leave the house looking like you just woke up, so I think a man should always smell good, look good, and be courteous and polite and be gentleman like at all times. A man is someone who never gives up on a dream, despite what the world says and what society deems viable and safe, even if his family is included in that society. A man always puts the well being of someone else before himself. Contrary to popular belief, I believe a real man is one who is not ashamed or afraid to cry, not for the odd “rom com” but when its necessary to cry. A man is one who should be meek and humble enough to say “Im Sorry” when he has to, gentle enough to pay attention to the little things in life that count and strong enough to stand up for what is right in the face of adversity, and no matter what people may say or gossip about. A real man is not afraid to cry for help, on his knees in prayer.

Do you feel you were exposed to such men in your life growing up, if so kindly share who they were and their impact on your life


If there was one man that always had my attention, that man was Rocky BalBoa (Sylvester Stallone’s character in a boxing movie for those unfortunate ones who have no clue of that movie!!!?!?!?!) Jokes aside though, my grandfather was that man… IS that man!! A man who always reminds
me of how important God is, and that knowledge is power. I later deduced that knowledge is only power in the hands that understand how to turn that knowledge into Wisdom Power. My grandfather was the consummate gentleman, the benchmark of style and etiquette and one of the most Godly, God fearing men I’ve ever come across. He is definitely responsible in defining and grooming me into the man you see today.

Kindly share what you do on a professional level on a day to day basis


Before, when asked this question, I used to get befuddled at how to answer this question, but as time passed, I found that the easiest answer was to say that I am a musician, in its entirety. To simplify it, I am a professional pianist, what I do the most and what I am now, amongst many other things, is a Musical Director for a few South African artists and television shows and the occasional gospel show/concert
.

Does music integrate into your personal space as much as we see it impact you in professional spaces?


Most definitely!!! I am practically immobile at home if I don’t have music playing in the background. When I wash the dishes there’s music, when I shower/bath there’s music, when I do the washing there’s music, when I fall asleep there’s music, when I’m driving
, there’s music. I hope that answers your question.

Do you feel a religious outlook influences morality and what are your own moral convictions?


I do believe that any religious outlook can influence ones moral compass in both good and bad ways, hence the Wisdom Power I spoke of earlier. It is my strong belief that an individual needs to make up his or her own mind on what is morally and ethically right and wrong, no matter what religious background may be brought forward. This is actually in my opinion a very serious discussion you are raising here… there are so many facets to this question, maybe that’s for another blog hehehe (⏎ am I allowed to do that??) Coming back to the final part of your question, my moral convictions might appear to be simple and archaic, but I believe that when you can truly put another before yourself and truly apply the thirteenth chapter from a book I like to read called 1Corinthians; (a chapter in the Bible which depicts Gods way to love people), to every culture, every creed, no matter your religious standing and ethnicity, so much right can be done and so much wrong can be averted.

They say  ‘when you look good you feel good.’ We know you to be conscious of your appearance; does it affect how you feel about yourself?


An emphatic YES!!! I must start off by saying that I’m quite new to the fashion movement. I’ve always been known to possess my own sense of style, and thank goodness its evolved over time, cause when I look back, I just laugh at my fashion sensibility. I just wear what I’m comfortable in and
what feels right for that day. I think you dress the way you feel, and vice versa. I look at it as my social right, my humanitarian responsibility to look presentable at all times, for all occasions, whether I’m playing tennis, golf, squash, or cycling or even when I’m going for a walk in a park. I was raised to always look the part, even if you’re an amateur hahahahaha (⏎oops I did it again!?!?)

Do you wish to be a father someday and what would you want to teach your children?

This is a sensitive topic for me, but to hit straight to the question I would say YES. I would like to be a father, but more importantly I would love to be a great dad someday.

I see you said “children” I think lets start with ONE first and then take it slow from there hey!!?? So, what I would teach my “child” is to dream big just like daddy, cause I think having ONE wife and ONE child IS DREAMING BIG, let alone children and a few other wives!!! I digress, my child would know and understand that God and family and friends are important. I honestly think the only way to teach my child or pass on any good values I’ve learned, and warn them about the negatives and the “not so good” tendencies I was subjected to as I grew up, would be to show him/her how to love, and for me to LEAD by example. I do not want to be the parent who says “Do As I Say, Not As I Do”…I want to instill in them to “Do As God Says, And Practice As He Has”
In terms of roles in society, where would you place women? And how do you feel women should be treated in respect to this?



I would place women right beside all men in every way and in every sphere. I have a high regard for women in society, this respect I have gained for all women, was by seeing my mother and grandmother raise their children in times of great adversity and circumstance. I come from a broken home, so I know the pain and struggles I see in so many young people I come across today. That certainly did not stop my mother and grandmother from raising their children the best way they knew how. Yes they made mistakes, who doesn’t, but such strength I have seen in them that we all see -or may not see- in all women around the world, fighting and praying for their children and clawing and struggling
in the face of great adversity and insurmountable circumstances. I am proof that those seemingly insurmountable circumstances were NOT insurmountable AT ALL… and only through a mothers sheer will and faith in God, raised a man like me, and as a man, …“I will honour my mother and father so my days might be plentiful on this earth…”


Determination, coupled with a passion for what you do, seems to be essential when overcoming the negative effects of the unfortunate parts of your upbringing. Thus allowing you to fully explore your potential whilst creating a better foundation for the generation to come. 

  Circumstances and negativity can be a stone that breaks or builds. Iv chosen the latter. 

Photography by Aaron & Hur 

Chris Zola Dube – Asaman 

Asaman meets with Chris Zola Dube. 27 year old IT Network Engineer and businessman. He shares his story 

 


Tell us a little bit about your childhood

I grew up in Joburg, having lost both my parents at a very young age,  I was thrown in this Independence thing at a very early stage of my life. My father passed away in a car accident when I was doing 5th grade, at that stage I had no male role model to look up to in my life. We were not really close, so it was easy for me to get over it. My mother had to play both roles and in 2003 she passed on from pneumonia and at that moment I never thought I will be where I am now. Because of the friends and family that God blessed me with, I am where I am because of their support.

Which men influenced you the most growing up and how so? 

As I mentioned earlier, I never really had a male role model in my teen years up until I met a family friend uncle who acquired his millions in his early 20’s. I aspired to be like him in every way, the only problem was that his ways around women were not something to look up to and his spiritual life was also not uplifting to anyone, but at that young stage of my life that didn’t matter, all I wanted was to be a successful young man at whatever cost. I started attending church at TESDA (Tshwane East SDA), there I met a lot of successful family men, the likes of Adv Mkhize, Mr Digkole etc, they showed me that you can be successful in your career and still hold the spiritual values and family values without compromising the image of a real man.

Do you think that in society today we have men who stand as good examples? 

Definitely, the only problem is that this world is full of so much evil, all we hear about is rape, women abuse, child abuse, murder, corruption, Nkandla…we wake up to this kind of news on a daily basis and the goodness of men is over shadowed by the ones who are just males rather than men. 

What do you do professionally and was it your ideal?

LOL… I ask myself that question every morning when I step inside the office. I have a lot of job titles in my organisation, I am a Project Manager, Technical Manager and a Senior Network Engineer (IT). I have also started a little business on the side, after realizing that you wake up every morning to make someone millions and millions of Rands while he is in bed, you come to appreciate the art of hard working and starting your own thing, not to be limited by a monthly pay check. So you can say I am the above mentioned and a business man.

Do you believe ones contentment in the workplace translates to the rest of their lives? And how so? 

I believe one should never be never content in their work space, that limits the ability for growth, you can be content as a CEO or COO of a organisation, but not anything lower, after a while you tend to start complaining about things you cant change in a work place and then you start being content about those thing and end up being miserable and the you translate all of that to your household which will have significant implications in your home. 

Do you wish to be a father some day and what would you ideally teach your children to better them as the next generation? 

I do wish to start a family one day and be a parent. One thing I would teach my children is that they should never be victims of their circumstances, every circumstance should build them to be better people. One of the biggest problems about black people is South Africa is that 20 years after democracy, they are still playing victim of apartheid, once you get a mindset of entitlement YOU WILL NEVER get up and find something that will work for you

What is the one thing you wished someone had taught you that you had to learn through making a mistake? 

That love isnt what it seems in the movies..LOL

Do you believe the younger generation of men as is, is equip with enough to create a healthy community of men? 

Yes, not all hope is lost. Once a young man grows up knowing the Lord, all principles and values of creating a healthy community will fall into place without him being taught by any other man, God reveals more that you can imagine.

As a modern man,what are your thoughts on appearance and how does your personal style influence your confidence ? 

The idea of appearance versus reality is seen in everyday life; including relationships, religion, and school studies. The concept makes me feel oblivious to the world and all the knowledge it contains. I don’t completely agree with knowledge coming from experience, for I believe that the possibility of innate knowledge exists. Appearance versus reality opens the mind to considering how things we see is not really as they seem. For example, the term “love blind” used in everyday life can be incorporated in this situation. The person one is in love with seems flawless because he/she is everything one thinks they want, but in reality, that might not be the case. We see the tip of the iceberg, but not everything about it. The first thing that you must do to improve confidence in your appearance is let go of self-doubt. Stop your negative thoughts about being too fat or not handsome enough. Then, if you’re receiving negative feedback from others, make sure you stop listening to it. The only way to gain self-confidence is to feel confident about yourself as you are. 


I am thankful that people like Chris exist, and even more grateful that he exists in my space. Self pity is such common practice and here’s a man who defied the norm, has risen above tragedy and circumstance whilst maintaining and sharing a demeanor of calm and kindness. Asaman takes great pleasure in engaging with men of chatacter. 

  Your destiny is to fulfill those things upon which you focus most intently. So choose to keep your focus on that which is truly magnificent, beautiful, uplifting and joyful. Your life is always moving towards something 

Photography by Aaron & Hur  

Sabelo ‘DJ Sabby’ Mtshali – Asaman 

Sabelo ‘DJ Sabby’ Mtshali recently turned 25 and is making waves in the entertainment industry. He shares his journey with Asaman 

  

What is the one stereotype you absolutely hate that has been placed on men of zulu decent? 

That we are all always angry, short temper, cheaters and are about the polygamy life. It is also sad that most people have made it seem that the taxi business is for Zulu men. Those are just some of the things I can think of right now.

Do you feel your upbringing was based more on a traditional or religious outlook or were the two merged?

 I will have to say that I come from a family that has always allowed me to find answers to all my oddity. My family has always ensured that I am aware of all my customs when it comes to family tradition and with religion, we are Christian and that is what I have believed in ever since I was a kid. I do have questions on some aspects to it but I do believe in my traditional values and religion.

But to answer your questions, the two have always been in sync from day 1.

Define your understanding of manhood

Being there for your family, ensuring that they never have to suffer when you are around.

Offering direction to people you consider close to you and steering the ship on a path that is for the benefit of everyone. Be a leader and not a dictator.

Have a relationship with your kid that is beyond monetary value.

Offer support in your community and assist people with skills that will empower them in the long run.

Be a pillar of strength when the world seems to be falling apart.

Respect women, they are our ribs and ribs give structure to the chest you push out with pride.

Pride doesn’t make you a man but respect for others does.

Why the entertainment industry?

You might consider this cliché, but in all honesty entertainment chose me.

Do you feel men in the industry can be considered good examples for the coming generation (please give at least one example)
 Yes. There are several men in showbiz that have shown young people that you can make a career of entertainment and still be able to hold the forth at home.

Men like Proverb & DJ Fresh, have been able to show that through hard work and consistency you can succeed without losing touch with home. I am not saying it is easy, but from what they post up on their social media platforms, it gives me hope that when I become a family man, my career and family can be balanced.

The age old debate regarding the lyrics in most popular music being demeaning to women? What are your feelings towards this?

This is topic that is so deep and any words I choose to define this might not be enough. Unfortunately money and women have always been lined up in the same line in show business as means of generating revenue. Most men feel like having both, money and women is their idea of reaching your pinnacle of success and that is not true.

 Then you have men who are totally against that. Women deserve to be respected and also women must stop labelling all men as dogs because there are men out there that are good to their women and it is not fair to label them dogs when it is not true.  

What do you as Sabelo want to be remembered for? Describe your ideal legacy

I would like to be remembered as the best to ever do it! He was never about competition with anyone but he was always challenging himself because he knew what he was capable of achieving.


I was performing on a live music radio platform when I met DJ Sabby, as he was the host of this particular show. We linked up on social media and this is where I began to see just how hard this young man works. Many have relocated to ‘the big city’ with the hope of achieving ‘big things’, but very few put in the work required. What I have seen in DJ Sabby is a manifestation of the popular saying “What you put in is what you get out” 

  

You can put in a lot of work and hours into any project. This does not mean results will be immediate. Learn to be patient. I believe God’s time is the best time. 

Photography by Aaron & Hur 

Ndumiso Hadebe – Asaman 

24 year old Ndumiso Hadebe is a Business speaker, Mentor and Economist. Asaman sits down with him.   

What would you say makes and keeps you happy? 

What makes and keeps me happy is first the love and fellowship I have with my Creator. I derive a lot of pleasure from my relationship with Him. I also love and enjoy being and seeing people happy, I have a heart for people and so I have  gratification when people around me are happy. 

Tell us a bit about what you do in your professional capacity 

I work as a researcher in the enterprise development sector, so I do a lot of work in relation to the development of smaller business and their contribution in local economies. 

I also work as a consultant and speaker through a new consulting business I have recently started, Master Frontiers Advisory. I work with clients in government, banking and civil society sectors in providing them insights on frontier and emerging economies and how they can navigate the work they do in these changing times with a bias towards our young population.  

Are you fulfilled in regards to what you do on a daily basis or is there something else that you would like to explore? 
I am one person who has always been deliberate about pursuing purpose and doing what I love. 

I believe in the story of a rising Africa and the economic potential that it can unlock. I believe it is my duty to tell this story far and wide. My life both inside and outside of my work reflects the same theme.

So I am fulfilled by the work that I do on a daily basis, I would not be doing anything else at this point.

What is your honest opinion on the general moral state of young men today and do you feel it can be made better? 

I think that we live in a world that is changing so quickly, from a young age we have access to all sorts of information and influences. 

To a point where we are essentially forced to grow up quicker than previous generations and of course this had an influence on the moral state of young men. We are prone to being gullible to material things, seek instant gratification and a loss of a sense of self and self knowing. 

I once came a across a quote saying :” All of these selfies but is there self knowledge?” . So I guess as young men, in the midst of change, it is important that we do not loose sight of who we are and a destined to be become.

Where did you grow up and who raised you? What are the important lessons you received growing up?  

I was born and in my formative years raised in Sebokeng, a township in the Vaal area, south of Johannesburg. 

I was raised by a Mbokodo, a loving, strong and powerful woman who raised 3 boys (my brothers and I ) and taught us about the love of God and invested in our education as a tool to give us and to create a better life for ourselves and our people. 

So the important lessons I learned and received growing up were exactly that, the knowledge of the love God has for us as His children and the value of education in the development of people and living out the fullness of life.

Do you feel fathers today are stepping up to what you feel their role should be? 

Well, the reality is that many of us have been raised by single mothers. On One Day Leader , a youth leadership programme on SABC 1, we all were raised by single mothers. 

This speaks to the fact that we need more father figure role models. Perhaps some of our young men have no knowledge of what manhood is about or themselves because there aren’t enough men to model. With that being said, there are a number of other men who are stepping up and mentoring young men. I am a product of such a father figure relationship.

Would you like to be a father, and what would you impart to your children? 

Haha I do look forward to being a father one day. My hope is to impart one lesson to them, a love and respect for God, themselves and their fellow man. Everything else will fall in to place.

What else do you enjoy doing outside of work? 

I love music! In my next life, I would want to be a musician, but a vocalist particularly. I enjoy reading and running as well. That is where I feed my creative space. 

You mentioned that you are not a ‘fan’ of titles, could you share why not? 

I believe in the perspective of leading without a title, because we are human and fall short at times, it is easy to be consumed by titles that we hold. But what I have come to learn, particularly after winning One Day Leader and being a Future Leaders mentor is that titles say very little about how well our lives are lead.

There are a lot of people who are doing amazing work around the world but they doing it from confines of a township, rural area with limited resources. So my view is that if we all were to share this perspective, we would make a huge difference in the lives of people and not think because I have a specific title, “I have arrived” . Our body of work is never complete. 


I was impressed with Ndumiso when we first met, but more so now and here is why. Nothing is put on. You can almost literally see the passion in his eyes. Yet he walks with such humility. His cheerful heart beams through his young face, and leaves behind an ora of goodness. 

At 24 many are yet to discover their purpose. He may still have a while to go, but it is refreshing to see a man of his age so passionate and driven with an actual cause. 

 ‘There is a difference between being a male and a man. Being a male is biological but manhood is about character’ 

Photography by Aaron & Hur